Monsters' Queen

the-real-seebs:

maaoh:

the-real-seebs:

vastderp:

the-real-seebs:

I get confused about “needing attention” too, not just because “they’re just doing it for attention” is pretty callous—“they lack a thing so much they put considerable possibly self-destructive effort into getting it, haha that’s pathetic”—but because I think sometimes it’s the side-effect or a means to an end, but never a goal as such? If my goal is to make a friend happy, then I’ll have to make them pay attention to what I’m doing for a while, but the attention isn’t the goal. If I draw something, I might get attention for that, but that wasn’t the goal. Thanks to depression I probably know roughly the feeling, but with that it’s more about validation for doing good things so you kinda have a receipt that proves you’ve got worth, and getting validation for things you haven’t done (or haven’t “earned”?) wouldn’t work for that. Even “you’re only doing this good thing for validation” means “with effort, you can do good things”, which is valuable knowledge.

Yeah.

My usual response to claims that someone is only doing something for attention is to observe that presumably they are in need of attention.

I mean. “You’re only cooking because you’re hungry.” Okay. So does that mean you’re not really cooking?

needing attention is a much-slandered reason for doing a lot of fucked up things, and you’d think the last conclusion people drew from the sight of, say, a kid with a ton of self-inflicted wounds that s/he sees as the only way to get attention would be “meh, it’s not that important.”

and i’m over here like NOW SEE HERE ASSHOLE…

Trivia thing: It is extremely hard for most people to intentionally injure themselves.

One inference might be that someone who is upset enough that this sounds like a good plan is probably really fucking upset.

I’ve been trying to argue this point since like… motherfucking 2005 when people thought picking on “stupid emo kids who cut because they are attentions whores and are a mockery of real depression” (paraphrased) was and still is the in thing to do. Almost a decade later and I STILL have other people with depression trying to ‘splain me that no, really. people who cut for attention (and honestly I HIGHLY DOUBT kids who cut only for attention and do not have some underlying issue you don’t know about even exist) don’t deserve attention or sympathy or anything and they don’t have real problems like actual real people with depression.

They may or may not go into details with their own depression as if to serve an example of what real suffering is like. Because unless I go into my own history chances are these same people hold the opinion that you cannot actually believe that self injury in and of itself is a MASSIVE red flag that something is very wrong regardless of “attention whoring” unless you’ve never experienced major depressive episodes.

It’s basically incredibly offensive and upsetting for me on several levels.

(sorry if this is hard to read. running kind of low on cognitive spoons atm)

Makes sense to me.

I just… I think it’s pretty obvious that non-trivial self-injury is in and of itself evidence that something is actually wrong.

See also my analogy with the computer that stops everything to pop up a window saying “FATAL ERROR: No error detected (-1).”

The fact that you don’t know what the error is, and indeed, the error was apparently not detected, does not detract from the fact that something is wrong. Even if it’s just the error-reporting mechanism, something has to be broken for that to happen.

k-b-rock:

sententiola:

Sometimes I think about how many little things we probably do every day that would totally mess up the reasoning of a Sherlock-Holmes-style detective.

Like the other day we went to the cinema and I was wearing a shirt with no pockets so I put the ticket in my trouser pocket.  The next day I was wearing the same trousers and I put my hand in my pocket and found the ticket there.

Now, I have a certain selection of things I always have in my trouser pockets and I don’t really like having anything else in there because it confuses my hands when I want to get something, so I took the ticket out.  And I wasn’t near a rubbish bin, but I was wearing a shirt with a breast pocket.  So I put the ticket in the shirt pocket.

And I thought: if I get interestingly murdered, the Sherlock-Holmes-style detective is going to deduce that I’m wearing the same shirt that I wore yesterday.  Because it’s got a cinema ticket in the pocket with yesterday’s date on, and why on earth would anyone put a cinema ticket in the pocket of a shirt unless they were wearing the shirt when they went to the cinema?

Which is a bit of reasoning we would all find totally convincing if it came from a Sherlock-Holmes-style detective.  But it would be wrong.  Because actually there are so many other explanations for things once you take account of the fact that people are often slightly eccentric in completely trivial and unguessable ways.

“Samuel Vimes dreamed about Clues. He had a jaundiced view of Clues. He instinctively distrusted them. They got in the way. And he distrusted the kind of person who’d take one look at another man and say in a lordly voice to his companion, “Ah, my dear sir, I can tell you nothing except that he is a left-handed stonemason who has spent some years in the merchant navy and has recently fallen on hard times,” and then unroll a lot of supercilious commentary about calluses and stance and the state of a man’s boots, when exactly the same comments could apply to a man who was wearing his old clothes because he’d been doing a spot of home bricklaying for a new barbecue pit, and had been tattooed once when he was drunk and seventeen* and in fact got seasick on a wet pavement. What arrogance! What an insult to the rich and chaotic variety of the human experience!”

—Terry Pratchett, Feet of Clay

I don’t want to go so far as to say that only a white writer would think to have Sam Wilson become Captain America, because that’s not the case. I do, however, think that only a writer who isn’t trying hard enough would come up with that already-been-done story. More important, I think only a writer caught up in existing racial ideologies would think it is a good idea that a black man assumes the identity of a white man, as if that is the pinnacle of identity.

Let me be clear, so there is no misunderstanding, any writer working in comics could have come up with the idea of Falcon taking over for Captain America. It is a no-brainer. What is troubling to me—and is something that I’ve talked about before—is that in his forty-plus year history, Falcon has no truly defining story. Even the best Falcon stories are either mediocre or forgettable, and now, after all this time, the character gets to do something memorable by taking over the job of a white guy. This is the real reason why Marvel’s Diversity & Representation 2014 initiative is such a joke. It is all superficial (not to mention temporary), and it only perpetuates the notion that in order for people of color and women to achieve greatness, they must literally fill the shoes of a white man. Gimme a break.
David Walker at BadAzzMofo (via the fray newsletter )

Leverage Meme: 1/10 Dynamics: Hardison + Parker + Eliot

misandry-mermaid:

thenigerianassassin:

snowbunnysampson:

postracialcomments:

First female black student-president at nation’s most expensive prep school is forced to resign after ‘offensive’ photographs of her mocking ‘typical white classmates’ emerge online
The former black student body president at a pricey New Jersey prep school was forced to resign from her leadership position earlier this year after she posted a series of photos on the Internet, in which she is seen dressed as what she describes to be the typical male, white student at the school.
In the photos, former Lawrenceville School Student Body President Maya Peterson is seen wearing L.L. Bean duck boots, a Yale University sweatshirt and is holding a hockey stick, which she says is representative of the typical ‘Lawrenceville boi.’
In addition to the photos, she added hashtags like ‘#romney2016,’ ‘#confederate,’ and ‘#peakedinhighschool.’
Peterson explains that the photos were meant as a joke in response to complaints made by students about her senior photos, in which she and 10 friends - all of whom were black - are seen raising their fists in a ‘Black Power’ salute. 
'I understand why I hurt people’s feelings, but I didn’t become president to make sure rich white guys had more representation on campus,' she told the website. 'Let’s be honest. They’re not the ones that feel uncomfortable here.'
Some of Peterson’s classmates, however, didn’t see the humor in her ‘racist’ photos.
'You’re the student body president, and you’re mocking and blatantly insulting a large group of the school’s male population,' one student commented on the photo.
Peterson’s response to the comment only made things worse.
'Yes, I am making a mockery of the right-wing, confederate-flag hanging, openly misogynistic Lawrentians,' Peterson responded. 'If that’s a large portion of the school’s male population, then I think the issue is not with my bringing attention to it in a lighthearted way, but rather why no one has brought attention to it before…'
Both students and faculty members felt the images were offensive, and that ‘it was not fitting of a student leader to make comments mocking members of the community,’ Dean of Students Nancy Thomas told the Lawrenceville student paper.
Peterson’s take on race has irritated her classmates in the past, as well.
In 2012, following the re-election of President Barack Obama, Peterson wrote on Facebook about how proud she was that an African-American was president - and threw in a sarcastic jab at white people.
'As a black and Latino, gay woman in the United States of America, today is a momentous day,' she wrote. 'I’m sorry to all the rich white men who have failed to elect a president that endorses their greed.'
Some of her classmates felt the Facebook post was racist.
'I’m gonna have to assume from your political beliefs and what you’ve said that you do not pay for your Lawrenceville tuition in its entirety,' one student wrote. 'But do you know who pays for that? Yeah, that would be all those greedy white men who actually worked for their fortune, not relied on the government to support them. Just saying.'
Peterson’s family paid full tuition at the school.
Peterson’s getting elected student body president worried many of her classmates, as they believed she was alienating a large portion of the student body with her controversial comments about white classmates
One former student said Peterson’s photos - and overall attitude, ‘violated the spirit of the Lawrenceville community.’
'It was hateful. It wasn’t inclusive,' the student, identified only as David, said. 'When I think of Maya Peterson, I don’t think of someone who is an avid proponent of progress or of inclusiveness. I think of someone who is hateful. She had a hateful spirit.Source
Lord look at this madness
I SUPPORT MAYA PETERSON!!!!

I have never felt more love for someone that I have never met than I do for this young woman.  I thought she would apologize but in the boldness of her reasoning I saw no lies.
Maya Paterson for some public office in the future?  Presidency maybe..

Blackface “African”-themed parties: Silence
Native American mocking parties-Silence
Urban Black culture mocking parties-Silence
Black woman with a hockey stick-OMG REVERSE RACISM!!!
I honestly believe she was making a point and their reaction made her point perfectly. 

'I understand why I hurt people’s feelings, but I didn’t become president to make sure rich white guys had more representation on campus,' she told the website. 'Let’s be honest. They’re not the ones that feel uncomfortable here.'
'Yes, I am making a mockery of the right-wing, confederate-flag hanging, openly misogynistic Lawrentians,' Peterson responded. 'If that’s a large portion of the school’s male population, then I think the issue is not with my bringing attention to it in a lighthearted way, but rather why no one has brought attention to it before…'
This woman is a fucking hero tbh

misandry-mermaid:

thenigerianassassin:

snowbunnysampson:

postracialcomments:

First female black student-president at nation’s most expensive prep school is forced to resign after ‘offensive’ photographs of her mocking ‘typical white classmates’ emerge online

The former black student body president at a pricey New Jersey prep school was forced to resign from her leadership position earlier this year after she posted a series of photos on the Internet, in which she is seen dressed as what she describes to be the typical male, white student at the school.

In the photos, former Lawrenceville School Student Body President Maya Peterson is seen wearing L.L. Bean duck boots, a Yale University sweatshirt and is holding a hockey stick, which she says is representative of the typical ‘Lawrenceville boi.’

In addition to the photos, she added hashtags like ‘#romney2016,’ ‘#confederate,’ and ‘#peakedinhighschool.’


Peterson explains that the photos were meant as a joke in response to complaints made by students about her senior photos, in which she and 10 friends - all of whom were black - are seen raising their fists in a ‘Black Power’ salute. 

'I understand why I hurt people’s feelings, but I didn’t become president to make sure rich white guys had more representation on campus,' she told the website. 'Let’s be honest. They’re not the ones that feel uncomfortable here.'

Some of Peterson’s classmates, however, didn’t see the humor in her ‘racist’ photos.

'You’re the student body president, and you’re mocking and blatantly insulting a large group of the school’s male population,' one student commented on the photo.

Peterson’s response to the comment only made things worse.

'Yes, I am making a mockery of the right-wing, confederate-flag hanging, openly misogynistic Lawrentians,' Peterson responded. 'If that’s a large portion of the school’s male population, then I think the issue is not with my bringing attention to it in a lighthearted way, but rather why no one has brought attention to it before…'

Both students and faculty members felt the images were offensive, and that ‘it was not fitting of a student leader to make comments mocking members of the community,’ Dean of Students Nancy Thomas told the Lawrenceville student paper.

Peterson’s take on race has irritated her classmates in the past, as well.

In 2012, following the re-election of President Barack Obama, Peterson wrote on Facebook about how proud she was that an African-American was president - and threw in a sarcastic jab at white people.

'As a black and Latino, gay woman in the United States of America, today is a momentous day,' she wrote. 'I’m sorry to all the rich white men who have failed to elect a president that endorses their greed.'

Some of her classmates felt the Facebook post was racist.

'I’m gonna have to assume from your political beliefs and what you’ve said that you do not pay for your Lawrenceville tuition in its entirety,' one student wrote. 'But do you know who pays for that? Yeah, that would be all those greedy white men who actually worked for their fortune, not relied on the government to support them. Just saying.'

Peterson’s family paid full tuition at the school.

Peterson’s getting elected student body president worried many of her classmates, as they believed she was alienating a large portion of the student body with her controversial comments about white classmates

One former student said Peterson’s photos - and overall attitude, ‘violated the spirit of the Lawrenceville community.’

'It was hateful. It wasn’t inclusive,' the student, identified only as David, said. 'When I think of Maya Peterson, I don’t think of someone who is an avid proponent of progress or of inclusiveness. I think of someone who is hateful. She had a hateful spirit.

Source

Lord look at this madness

I SUPPORT MAYA PETERSON!!!!

I have never felt more love for someone that I have never met than I do for this young woman.  I thought she would apologize but in the boldness of her reasoning I saw no lies.

Maya Paterson for some public office in the future?  Presidency maybe..

Blackface “African”-themed parties: Silence

Native American mocking parties-Silence

Urban Black culture mocking parties-Silence

Black woman with a hockey stick-OMG REVERSE RACISM!!!

I honestly believe she was making a point and their reaction made her point perfectly. 

'I understand why I hurt people’s feelings, but I didn’t become president to make sure rich white guys had more representation on campus,' she told the website. 'Let’s be honest. They’re not the ones that feel uncomfortable here.'

'Yes, I am making a mockery of the right-wing, confederate-flag hanging, openly misogynistic Lawrentians,' Peterson responded. 'If that’s a large portion of the school’s male population, then I think the issue is not with my bringing attention to it in a lighthearted way, but rather why no one has brought attention to it before…'

This woman is a fucking hero tbh

Top 5 books you've read!

theladyragnell:

I am adding a “this year” onto this because whenever I do in general it turns into a lot of childhood formative reads and most of you have heard me read Beauty and War for the Oaks and Eva Ibottson before. Plus, this year I’m actually keeping proper record of what I’ve read!

The Hundred Thousand Kingdoms by NK Jemisin - really interesting fantasy, I haven’t got my hands on the others in the trilogy yet but I’m looking forward to it a lot. There is kind of poly, and apparently more explicit (and happy) poly in another book!

The Lunar Chronicles (Cinder, Scarlet, Cress) by Marissa Meyer - YA science fiction fairy tales, the first three in a quartet (the fourth is coming next spring). Fairy tales! Spaceships! Thus far three different main ladies and three different main dudes who feel like different and real people (and none of the dudes are assholes and NO REAL LOVE TRIANGLES!)! Nothing I do not love.

Shades of Milk and Honey by Mary Robinette Kowal - Imagine Jane Austen where one of the expected ladylike accomplishments to have is illusion-making. Worth the read for the concept alone.

Friday’s Child by Georgette Heyer - I love her writing, it is so frothy and bantery and has such wonderful heart to it. And this is a marriage of convenience with two ridiculous characters who I adore, and I was generally delighted by the whole thing.

The Vigilante Poets of Selwyn Academy by Kate Hattemer - YA, some misfits at an arts high school fighting against the reality show being put on there, with poetry and discussion of rhetorical devices, an animal sidekick named Baconnaise, endearing characters who are also sometimes assholes in the way that teenagers can be, just a generally good reading experience.

Top five shows you'd like to see on TV. :)

theladyragnell:

The Fairy Godmother Bureau: Wherein our heroine, in that terrible twenty-something trying-to-find-a-job slog after college, gets recruited by an agency that grants wishes, complete with sparkly wands, tinkly music, and a lot of paperwork and watercooler talk. (I know I have said this one before, but someday I am going to will it into being with the sheer immensity of my desire.)

Star Trek: Untitled: This came into being because I thought “Allison Scagliotti and George Blagden should be in a thing together because they’re both fabulous actors” and I thought “the Star Trek franchise needs a new show set after the Dominion War, not reboot movies” and I thought those things on the same day AND THUS. Star Trek show where Lucy Lawless is the captain, Melissa Ponzio is the Chief Medical Officer, Allison Scagliotti is the cocky helmswoman, and George Blagden is a lesser medical officer (she keeps getting imperiled on away missions and he keeps having to patch her up afterwards, they fall in love, this is me, we all knew it was going to be a thing). Anthony Mackie possibly is the head of security if the theoretical showrunners can get him out of the Falcon suit.

Something that gets happier instead of sadder: I do not have a plot for this, though I’d hope it would be a fantasy/sci-fi show like the ones we all know and love. But I would like something where instead of a happy cheery first season and then gradually everything getting darker, people losing trust in each other and the happiness thought of sadly with a “remember when,” we get the opposite. Where the beginning is dark (I’m fond of the idea of something where an Evil Overlord or something has just been defeated and a group of people have to fix everything that went wrong), and nobody trusts each other, but over time they turn into a team and smaller triumphs turn into bigger triumphs until finally a happy ending. There can be conflict aplenty, I don’t want things to be perfect, but I would like something where we are building up to a happier place instead of a darker one. /soapbox

Sitcom about a kitchen: I don’t care if it’s a bakery or a small-town diner or a fancy restaurant in the city (though I would prefer not that latter, we have quite a lot of shows about People In Positions Of Prestige), I just want kitchen/wait staff shenanigans (that aren’t 2 Broke Girls). Daily Special? I think I’ll call it that.

The show that I wanted Elementary to be before I realized how awesome Elementary was: Wherein Holmes and Watson are a pair of lady elementary school teachers who live together and solve Elementary School Crimes. I think it could be super charming done the right way. Lots of bright colors and sly humor. Maybe it could be animated? But either way.


Elie Saab - Spring Summer 2014
Elie Saab - Spring Summer 2014

Okay, okay, I’m going to tell you what Hermione sees in Ron.

A trio is a balancing act, right? They’re equalizers of each other. Harry’s like the action, Hermione’s the brains, Ron’s the heart. Hermione has been assassinated in these movies, and I mean that genuinely—by giving her every single positive character trait that Ron has, they have assassinated her character in the movies. She’s been harmed by being made to be less human, because everything good Ron has, she’s been given.

So, for instance: “If you want to kill Harry, you’re going to have to kill me too”—RON, leg is broken, he’s in pain, gets up and stands in front of Harry and says this. Who gets that line in the movie? Hermione.

“Fear of a name increases the fear of the thing itself.” Hermione doesn’t say Voldemort’s name until well into the books—that’s Dumbledore’s line. When does Hermione say it in the movies? Beginning of Movie 2.

When the Devil’s Snare is curling itself around everybody, Hermione panics, and Ron is the one who keeps his head and says “Are you a witch or not?” In the movie, everybody else panics and Hermione keeps her head and does the biggest, brightest flare of sunlight spell there ever was.

So, Hermione—all her flaws were shaved away in the films. And that sounds like you’re making a kick-ass, amazing character, and what you’re doing is dehumanizing her. And it pisses me off. It really does.

In the books, they balance each other out, because where Hermione gets frazzled and maybe her rationality overtakes some of her instinct, Ron has that to back it up; Ron has a kind of emotional grounding that can keep Hermione’s hyper-rationalness in check. Sometimes Hermione’s super-logical nature grates Harry and bothers him, and isn’t the thing he needs even if it’s the right thing, like when she says “You have a saving people thing.” That is the thing that Harry needed to hear, she’s a hundred percent right, but the way she does it is wrong. That’s the classic “she’s super logical, she’s super brilliant, but she doesn’t know how to handle people emotionally,” at least Harry.

So in the books they are this balanced group, and in the movies, in the movies—hell, not even Harry is good enough for Hermione in the movies. No one’s good enough for Hermione in the movies—God isn’t good enough for Hermione in the movies! Hermione is everybody’s everything in the movies.

Harry’s idea to jump on the dragon in the books, who gets it in the movies? Hermione, who hates to fly. Hermione, who overcomes her withering fear of flying to take over Harry’s big idea to get out of the—like, why does Hermione get all these moments?

[John: Because we need to market the movie to girls.]

I think girls like the books, period. And like the Hermione in the books, and like the Hermione in the books just fine before Hollywood made her idealized and perfect. And if they would have trusted that, they would have been just fine.

Would the movies have been bad if she was as awesome as she was in the books, and as human as she was in the books? Would the movies get worse?

She IS a strong girl character. This is the thing that pisses me off. They are equating “strong” with superhuman. To me, the Hermione in the book is twelve times stronger than the completely unreachable ideal of Hermione in the movies. Give me the Hermione in the book who’s human and has flaws any single day of the week.

Here’s a classic example: When Snape in the first book yells at Hermione for being an insufferable know-it-all, do you want to know what Ron says in the book? “Well, you’re asking the questions, and she has to answer. Why ask if you don’t want to be told?” What does he say in the movie? “He’s got a point, you know.” Ron? Would never do that. Would NEVER do that, even before he liked Hermione. Ron would never do that.

Melissa Anelli THROWS IT DOWN about the way Ron and Hermione have been adapted in the movies on the latest episode of PotterCast. Listen here. This glorious rant starts at about 49:00. (via karakamos)